Lesbians or the Sister Wife

For the past Little while I have been really bad about blogging! During the day something will happen and I will think to myself "I need to blog about this" but, things come up and my day goes by so quickly. Before I know it, its time for bed!



Well, here we go this is some of what happened this past week or so.



So last Saturday Kiana and Karston both had soccer practices during the day! The kids were with Romney and Kirstin. So together we coordinated so at least one of us would be at each of the kids soccer practices.



Romney took Desmond and went to Karston's soccer practice. Kirstin picked Kendrick and I up and we headed over to Kiana's soccer practice. When we arrived at the practice Kirstin introduced Kiana to her coach and we all sat down. Kirstin and I were talking and a couple of the other mom's came over to introduce themselves and to find out who we were. The ladies introduced themselves and then Kirstin said "we are Kiana's mom's" The ladies looked at each of us. I know they thought we were lesbians. We laughed and explained that we were not a couple but, mom and step mom. Throughout the practice Kirstin and I talked and talked. A little later one of the mom's from earlier came up to us and said "you guys have a unique chemistry for a mom and step mom." You could tell our relationship threw off those around us.



Kirstin and I laughed about the situation and talked briefly about how when we all went to the Zoo together during the summer I must have looked like her sister wife because it was Romney, Kirstin, Me (pregnant), and the kids. I'm so lucky to have such a great working relationship with Kirstin and Romney.



I get asked all the time if it is hard having to share the responsibility of mom with someone else. I would be lying if I said it was easy. Its funny because just sharing the kids is easy because Kirstin and I are both organized, we work with each others schedules, and are courteous of the others needs. So just sharing the kids most of the time easy. Its the emotional part the part no one else sees that is hard. Because there are times when I hear one of the kids refer to me as Karli and Kirstin as mom and it hurts. But, I just have to quickly take that hurt out of my mind. I used to blog about these hurts. I would fake a smile then run upstairs and write all about it. When I did that I got the hurt out of my system. But, in so doing I also put Romney and Kirstin in a no win situation. Now those moments of hurt are farther and fewer then they used to be. Now whenever I have those hurtful moments I think about how lucky I am to have such a wonderful woman like Kirstin help me raise my 3 kids.



For those of you long time blog readers. You will notice how time and maturity can change a person. When I started this blog I would right out all my emotions good, bad, and irrational. I did not think of the consequence I just wanted to get the feelings out of my system.



Awhile ago I was talking to Romney about my blog. I really hurt Romney by representing him in a unfavorable light. I want everyone to know that Romney has never forsaken his financial or emotional responsibilities to the kids. Romney is always there to back me up when it comes to the kids. Romney and Kirstin from the beginning have tried their best to be friends with me and I appreciate that. We have all said things that I know have come across wrong and in some cases hurtful. I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to work out our issues as co-parents and to now be friends.



Last night at Kiana's first soccer game we were all there cheering on Kiana. Desmond had a runny nose and Kirstin went and grabbed a tissue to wipe his nose. She brought extra gloves and hats for the kids to make sure they were warm. I know she feels a mothers love for the kids as I watch her tend to their needs. Romney and I stood together cheering on our little girl. I looked around and yes, our family may be unique and different but, its what we all need. Its what our kids need!



I want to thank Romney for his support of Jeremy as a step dad. Romney and Kirstin have really encouraged the relationship between the kids and Jeremy. I appreciate this especially because I know first hand how hard it is to have to share your responsibility as a parent with someone you didn't choose.



Divorce is horrible and should be avoiding like the plaque. It affects so many lives! More than you could ever possibly imagine. Through the past few years I have been at my lowest low and my highest high. I'm feeling good as I accomplish some of my goals each and everyday!



This goal I hope to accomplish today and that is to seek forgiveness from those I have offended.